Like Because. Love Despite.

Like because...Love despite…

     A few years ago when watching a movie, I came across a quote I now bring up regularly. The movie is called Set It Up made by Netflix. The quote was “we like because and we love despite.” The movie talks about how we like someone because of their good qualities and how we love someone despite all of their negative qualities that may get under our skin. In the movie this is used to describe romantic connections, roommates, and platonic relationships and the movie emphasizes the importance of having both. 

      It is unrealistic to think that there’s never going to be something about someone that will bother you. To hold someone to that “perfect” standard isn’t reasonable. If you’re someone who likes to keep your space nice and tidy, then having a roommate who’s a bit of a slob probably isn’t going to make you the happiest, but it doesn’t mean you don’t like them as a person. The movie itself mentions some of these as if it’s a catch. Like someone always telling bad jokes and being constantly late, “and yet…” they’re your best friend and you like them despite all of the slightly irritating things that they do. Sometimes that “and yet” is a specific reason like someone being caring or funny, but sometimes it’s not something you can put your finger on. Sometimes there’s just something about a person that makes you love them despite their flaws. 

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